When Dad turned 50

As a kid, I loved to celebrate birthdays.
The best part about them were –
A week prior to the birthday,
Dad would ask what I’d loved to do
and he would get me a present around that.

When I was 8 or so,
I’d told him that I loved to read stories.
So for my birthday a week later,
he bought me a set of mystery books –
Mystery of the stolen egg
Mystery of the haunted house
and few more…
Those memories are so precious,
I’ll take them to my grave,
but never forget.

Yesterday was Dad’s birthday.
I too wanted to ask him
what I could give him.
But I knew the answer.
I’ve known it for 20 years.
He loves to ride bikes.
But I can’t gift him one.
He is suffering from chronic disease of the kidneys
and is going through dialysis sessions thrice a week.
Yes, it’s that bad!
He’s been advised to not so much as lift half a kg.
Riding a bike is off-limits.

The treatments and frequent hospitalization
is making him weaker.
He needs something that will keep him strong.
Something cheerful, something special.
So on his birthday yesterday,
I gave him nothing!

I’m at work, a new project.
Capturing our special moments,
in the form of a booklet
Is there a better gift?
I can’t think of one!


Dad turned 50 yesterday.
Given the present situation, could I be any more happy?


Asha Seth

59 Replies to “When Dad turned 50”

  1. Hi Asha. So sorry to hear of your Dad’s sickness. Your poem was beautiful. I’m sure you’ve looked at the possibility of giving him one of your kidneys. That would be a wonderful gift. You and I are two generations apart – my son turned 50 last year.

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    1. Yes, Frank, have considered that. But sadly the laws around here are different. Daughters cannot donate apparently. 😞 Oh, nice to know about you two. It is enriching to speak with someone who’s been witness to so much in life. 😃 Youre welcome here, Frank.


  2. My friend, you never mentioned your dad suffering, I wish I could give you a hug. I love your gift idea though, it is a truly special gift and he will be so proud you made it for him. You do make me smile with all you do my dear friend.

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  3. Many blessings to you and your dad, it must be so difficult for him to go through this. And for all of you, his loved ones, to see him go through it. I truly can’t think of a better gift than a booklet of memories, I truly can’t.

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    1. Kamea, your thoughts mean a lot and I wish you happiness in the plenty. Dad’s strong, and I’m trying to be patient. It feels good to hope for better days. Yes, the booklet of about 10 some pages is in the making. 🙂


    1. Oh, the good old college days. The things you miss after marriage. I would love to be in your shoes even if that was for a day. And coffee for a break, sounds perfect to.me. study well, sweety. 👧

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  4. so sad.bt u give him d gift as ur confidence n happieness on ur face.he had done all for you to become as perfect personality.plz say hi m my regard n happy birthday.


  5. Oh Asha I am soooo sorry to hear about your father. While you may not be able to give him the gift he wants…his bike , you are giving him the best present and parent can ask for and that is ..LOVE. Continue to love your father it is the gift that keeps giving.


    1. Jerry. Your precious thoughts always make me smile. Love is unconditional and eternal. And I’m hoping that’ll make him better, sooner. Of course with the treatment. Thanks, bud. 😄


  6. First of all many happy returns of the day to your father 🍰🌹.

    I understand the situation you are going through and hope you to be mentally strong to handle this.

    Just express yourself! Tell him you care, you love him, you love spending time with him. Think about him and what you admire in him. Tell him about that. I mean, it’s not easy to go through an illness…it takes a lot of courage. What did he teach you when you were small? Thank him. And if you aren’t comfortable with that, be silly. Share a joke or a silly card. The answer to this question is that there are a lot of answers. Don’t worry about saying the ‘wrong thing’. I wish you the best with your father.

    Remind him of the good things he has taught you and how much they mean to you. I assure you that nothing you could do would make him feel better. Also, look up some jokes to tell him. Humor to a sick person is like medicine. If he might like to watch a DVD with you, rent it and share that time.

    Share some good times! He and you both will feel better. It’s good that you care so much ☺

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    1. Fathers are really special. Their love is eternal.
      I’m sure he’s with you right now and smiling at your thoughts for him. Thank you, David. For sharing this moment with me. It’s precious. 🙂


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